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Reflection: A way to move forward.

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As we come out of the November month that has invited us to remember, the new month of December beckons us to reflect, as a way of moving forward, into the new year 2026. Yesterday, I mentioned to a close friend of mine that this year, twenty-twenty-five has felt more like twenty-twenty-survive! So moving into the month of December, reflection seems to be a logical and wise thing to do, for oneself. I strongly believe that the quality of our emotional, mental and spiritual well-being of oneself has such a powerful influence on how we show up – for our loved ones, our clients, and colleagues in the workplace. So what does reflection really mean? What could reflection look like for you and me? In this blog post, I share five view points on what reflection could look like for you and me as we wade through the December month: 1. Seeing Yourself Clearly Every journey begins with self-awareness. Reflection invites us to pause long enough to understand what is happening within: our val...
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The Power to Remember

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November has long been known as the month of remembrance — a sacred pause in the rhythm of our year. It is a time to look back, to reflect, and to reconnect with the deeper meaning behind who we are, what we do and how we envision the future. For individuals, this month invites us to remember what has unfolded — the victories, the setbacks, the quiet growth between milestones. For organisations and teams, it is the perfect season to engage in strategic reflection : to recall the journey toward targets and goals, assess progress, and realign for the coming year. “Whether in leadership or part of a team, reflecting on our journey sharpens strategic focus — ensuring our daily efforts connect to the broader vision. It anchors us in what is real while pointing us toward what is possible.” Ernest Holmes once observed that “Life is a mirror and will reflect back to the thinker what he or she thinks into it.” In a corporate and personal context alike, this reminds us that our outcomes of...
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The Secret of Success

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Over the past few weeks, I have been immersed in Daniel Goleman’s classic book Emotional Intelligence . What a powerful read—provocative, practical, and deeply insightful. Even more enriching is the fact that I am reading it together with members of my Book Club, whose membership spans across the African continent. The diverse perspectives we bring to the discussion on Emotional Intelligence make the lessons even more meaningful. One of Goleman’s central arguments is simple yet transformative: success is not determined solely by intelligence quotient (IQ) —the metric many of us grew up believing was the key to achievement. Instead, emotional intelligence (EQ) plays a much larger role. Goleman notes that people with high IQs often end up working for leaders with stronger EQ. This resonates with me, as I recall how often in school we were told that excelling in IQ tests was the golden ticket to success. But is it really? That question brings me to the heart of this reflection. What...
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Fatherhood at Work: How Coaching Empowers Businesses Through the Principles of Fatherhood

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When people think of business coaching, they often imagine strategy, systems, and performance metrics. While those are vital, what I have learned as both a Coach and a Father is that sustainable business growth is deeply rooted in human connection, trust, and responsibility — principles we often associate with parenthood. Fatherhood teaches me lessons daily about leadership, legacy, and emotional intelligence — the same values that empower the businesses and the Clients that I coach. These principles don’t just shape individuals; they shape entire organisational cultures. The Power of Presence As a father, I have discovered that presence is not about being physically there; it is about emotional availability and active engagement. In the business world, this translates into leadership presence — leaders who truly listen, create space for dialogue, and model emotional awareness foster teams that are connected, resilient, and motivated. Belief Before Performance In fatherhood, ...
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56 Years of Love: Life Lessons from My Parents’ Marriage

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 Today 24 th May 2025 would have marked 56 years of marriage for my parents—a journey that began with simple vows but evolved into a legacy of commitment, resilience, and unconditional love . As a Personal Development Coach , I’ve come to realize how much our family stories shape who we are and who we become. Here are six timeless lessons their marriage taught me—wisdom I now pass on to my readers and clients who are seeking growth, healing, and deeper sense of purpose. 💠 1. Commitment is a Daily Decision Love is not just a feeling— it is a choice . Every day, my parents chose each other. They showed me that commitment is not about perfection, but persistence. And that kind of consistent effort is the heartbeat of real personal growth. 💠 2. Communication is More Than Words My parents often understood each other with a glance. Their silent support taught me that true communication is presence , empathy , and the willingness to listen without needing to fix. 💠 3. Con...
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Wheat vs Weeds

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  When a seed is planted, there are several unknowns about its future. These may include: how the seed will germinate, when the seed will germinate; the quality of the plant it will become; what yield it will produce; or even how long it will live. But the individual, who is planting, goes on ahead to plant anyway, filled with hope that the seed will eventually bear the anticipated fruit or outcome, at the appropriate time in the future. One speaker illustrated that the seed holds pure potential for what it was created for. Given the right conditions it will germinate and blossom into its full potential. The right conditions for the seed may include being buried in soil, and being watered for the germination process to start. The seed may not necessarily enjoy the experience of being buried, and becoming wet in the dark below the surface, yet it needs this right condition for it to sprout and become the rose flower, the bean plant, the orange or apple tree or whatever whose poten...
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P•A•T•H

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There is a powerful quote that says: “Don't follow where the path may lead. Go instead where there is no path and leave a trail.” I find this a thought-provoking quote, as it suggests adventure beyond the expectations, we have of ourselves or the expectations others may have of us. Going where there is no path is daunting. In fact we find ourselves so afraid that we even prevent others from either thinking about it or trying to embark on such a journey. Recently I have Coached several teen-agers. One thread that I find very interesting amongst most of them is the type of relationship they are experiencing with their parents – in terms of communication. When my daughter was about five years old, she and her brother who was seven at the time ‘summoned’ my wife and I for a breakfast meeting the following day. The item on the agenda was to discuss when we should inform them of the family weekend programmes and their desire to have an option whether they should attend social even...
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