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Fatherhood at Work: How Coaching Empowers Businesses Through the Principles of Fatherhood

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When people think of business coaching, they often imagine strategy, systems, and performance metrics. While those are vital, what I have learned as both a Coach and a Father is that sustainable business growth is deeply rooted in human connection, trust, and responsibility — principles we often associate with parenthood. Fatherhood teaches me lessons daily about leadership, legacy, and emotional intelligence — the same values that empower the businesses and the Clients that I coach. These principles don’t just shape individuals; they shape entire organisational cultures. The Power of Presence As a father, I have discovered that presence is not about being physically there; it is about emotional availability and active engagement. In the business world, this translates into leadership presence — leaders who truly listen, create space for dialogue, and model emotional awareness foster teams that are connected, resilient, and motivated. Belief Before Performance In fatherhood, ...
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56 Years of Love: Life Lessons from My Parents’ Marriage

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 Today 24 th May 2025 would have marked 56 years of marriage for my parents—a journey that began with simple vows but evolved into a legacy of commitment, resilience, and unconditional love . As a Personal Development Coach , I’ve come to realize how much our family stories shape who we are and who we become. Here are six timeless lessons their marriage taught me—wisdom I now pass on to my readers and clients who are seeking growth, healing, and deeper sense of purpose. 💠 1. Commitment is a Daily Decision Love is not just a feeling— it is a choice . Every day, my parents chose each other. They showed me that commitment is not about perfection, but persistence. And that kind of consistent effort is the heartbeat of real personal growth. 💠 2. Communication is More Than Words My parents often understood each other with a glance. Their silent support taught me that true communication is presence , empathy , and the willingness to listen without needing to fix. 💠 3. Con...
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Wheat vs Weeds

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  When a seed is planted, there are several unknowns about its future. These may include: how the seed will germinate, when the seed will germinate; the quality of the plant it will become; what yield it will produce; or even how long it will live. But the individual, who is planting, goes on ahead to plant anyway, filled with hope that the seed will eventually bear the anticipated fruit or outcome, at the appropriate time in the future. One speaker illustrated that the seed holds pure potential for what it was created for. Given the right conditions it will germinate and blossom into its full potential. The right conditions for the seed may include being buried in soil, and being watered for the germination process to start. The seed may not necessarily enjoy the experience of being buried, and becoming wet in the dark below the surface, yet it needs this right condition for it to sprout and become the rose flower, the bean plant, the orange or apple tree or whatever whose poten...
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P•A•T•H

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There is a powerful quote that says: “Don't follow where the path may lead. Go instead where there is no path and leave a trail.” I find this a thought-provoking quote, as it suggests adventure beyond the expectations, we have of ourselves or the expectations others may have of us. Going where there is no path is daunting. In fact we find ourselves so afraid that we even prevent others from either thinking about it or trying to embark on such a journey. Recently I have Coached several teen-agers. One thread that I find very interesting amongst most of them is the type of relationship they are experiencing with their parents – in terms of communication. When my daughter was about five years old, she and her brother who was seven at the time ‘summoned’ my wife and I for a breakfast meeting the following day. The item on the agenda was to discuss when we should inform them of the family weekend programmes and their desire to have an option whether they should attend social even...
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Cleaning House

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On 23 rd February 2009, a colleague of mine sent me an email that was entitled, Cleaning House. The Author is unknown. But the insights therein, are empowering and full of useful knowledge. I am sharing the contents of the message in the email. In fact, I stumbled onto the message as I was incidentally Cleaning Up my work space. Enjoy the read and your task of Cleaning House. --------   This weekend I decided to clean my house a little. What a load of rubbish one accumulates with time…! I threw out worry. It was old and in my way. It prevented me from being myself and from doing things God’s way. I also threw out an old book – My Past (in any case, I never had time to read the thing). But I replaced it with New Goals – I started reading it today. I also threw out hate and bad memories (Remember how I used to cherish them?) I also got hold of New Philosophy – threw away those of long ago. Then I bought a number of very cute booklets – I Can, I am going to and I sha...
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Start vs Stop

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One fine day, a friend of mine and I were discussing about how to facilitate effective change within organisations. At the time, I was working with him to facilitate change management in non-profit entities involved in humanitarian and community development work.  Coming from a business background, I was familiar with the SWOT Analysis process in aiding companies to identify their internal and external factors that would make them succeed. He then shared with me another very direct tool that he was using at the time. He calls it Start vs Stop. With the Start vs Stop, he guides conversations with the participants towards what it is they must start doing to achieve their goals. Conversely, they should also identify what it is, that they must stop doing that gets in the way of achieving their desired goals.  I was reminded of this tool during my personal reflections based on a decision I made a couple of weeks ago. It took me a months to make this decision. In the moment of makin...
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Change?

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So we are told, and many times reminded that: Change is the only constant!  Question is: do we like change? In fact, do we even want things to change?  Personally, I am happy with the status quo, especially when things seem to be going well. Why change, anyway?  So this past week, I was forced to reflect on the change(s) I encountered in my reality. A lot of matters demanded my attention, at the same time. One would say, it comes with age. But on a more sober note, I realised that the pressure of prioritising and trying to deal with all-important issues, at the same time, was due to the fact that I was ill–prepared to deal with the change(s) taking place in my situation of reality.  In the moment, I could not see it. But in hindsight, I realised that, had I been a little more prepared, just maybe I would not feel the pressure.  One wise man said one day, “learn from other people’s  mistakes. You may not live long enough to learn from your own.”  So my ...
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