Conversations

 Yes. Conversations. What about them?

Interestingly, conversations have a strong influence on our perspectives on just about everything in life. What we believe, or have strong opinions about, be it negative or positive. It is all guided by conversations.

These conversations could be with self, or inter-active with other people.

Conversations can be described as being: alluring, amusing, attractive, beautiful, compelling, curious, delightful, engaging, exotic, fascinating, impressive, intriguing, lovely, pleasing, provocative, refreshing, stimulating, striking, thought-provoking, unusual, absorbing, captivating, enchanting, gripping, inviting, riveting, stirring, elegant, exceptional, and pleasurable. The list could go on and on.

My key interest today, is about the quality of conversations that we have with self.

I tend to think that, the conversations that we have with self is where the magic happens. And yet, we seem to take little or no notice at all that our minds are always in conversation, ALL THE TIME.

And what makes the quality of conversations with self, important? I think it is because we make up our minds a lot with self. In turn this produces what we see physically (as also some would say what manifests in one’s life). Conversations we have with self can also be referred to as thoughts.

In her TedEx talk, Busi Selesho puts it succinctly: “Thoughts create actions; these actions end up as behavior; and the behavior ends up being your life.”

This all starts as conversations with self. More interestingly is that, thoughts (conversations with self) have the potent power to create. So what (goals) do you want to create for your life and in your life?

To sift through the vast conversations with self and make sense of what one can achieve in a shorter time, than they would have done by themselves, is what Coaching really is about.

The Coaching conversation is all about one having a structured conversation towards a desired goal. In fact one writer puts it this way: “Coaching as a conversation is a powerful and a dynamic interchange between the Coach and the Client.”

Everyone and anyone who wants to do better in life can find a good Coach to facilitate this dynamic inter-change.

I was humbled to learn that Oprah Winfrey has had at least four Coaches working with her at some point in her life. That could explain the level of her success. She makes time to unclutter her thoughts (conversations with self) in a structured way. And that brings clarity to what she chooses to do by creating what she wants for her life and those that she seeks to serve through Television and broadcast media.

Isn’t that also the story of people that we perceive as successful? When one studies successful people, in there, you would realise that they make time to de-clutter their conversations with self regularly.

How would you want to raise the quality of your conversations with self, going forward: to be more, have more and do better?

Get yourself a Coach and make time to have dynamic and fruitful conversations.  I am sure it will help you elevate the quality of conversations with self.



Comments

  1. AnonymousFebruary 20, 2023 at 12:58 PM

    Good stuff, conversation with self😏

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  2. AnonymousFebruary 20, 2023 at 5:36 PM

    Excellent revelations here .

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  3. AnonymousFebruary 20, 2023 at 7:35 PM

    This is very insightful, how we converse with ourselves is very important.

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